It is common for men to question whether they were sexually abused. There are many reasons for this, it varies from person to person. Asking those questions and realising you are not alone is the first step to make a connection. You will find that working in a supportive group is a really valuable part of the recovery process.

Was I Really Sexually Abused?

It is common for men to question whether they were sexually abused. There are many reasons for this, that varies from person to person. Some men can’t recall the actual event, but it feels like they were. Other men may have changed their reality to protect themselves. It is important to trust your own instinct. Does it feel like you were sexually abused? Can you relate to the feelings and behaviours described on this website?

Maybe what happened to me wasn't that bad?

Men who have been abused, often compare themselves to each other, wondering if what happened to them was not extreme enough, OR so extreme that people will avoid me is I ever say what really happened. In these workshops we do not compare what has happened to each of us, instead we create an environment of respect and acceptance for everyone. Each of our lives are unique, what happened to you is unique to you, and is your story. What happened and how it was dealt with are two sides of the same coin. A seemingly small event with no support adds up to a bit impact. Being shamed or threatened for wanting to talk of the experience will have a different impact than going to a trusted adult and being heard, understood and validated.


Do I really want to dig all that up again?


It can be scary to explore areas in our lives where we have been deeply hurt. Yet, to do this in a group environment of safety and support can be very healing and less lonely. The workshops have been formed to create a safe, gentle space for exploring and sharing. Working in a supportive group is acknowledged as a valuable part of the recovery process.