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The estimates are that 1 in 6 men in the UK have been sexually abused. For some it will have a low impact on their lives, for others it will dictate everything that comes afterwards. The trauma of the abuse has many symptoms from isolation, low self esteem, addiction, violence to self or others, to relationship difficulties. ISOLATION is the most damaging. It cuts you off from the resources that could help change your present life experience for a better one. The truth is that it gets better when you come out of isolation and do something different.
Was formed as a vehicle to support men on their journey to wholeness. We run workshops for men with a history of abuse, offer seminars and trainings to inform and educate professionals around all aspects of male sexual abuse. We maintain a website with information and resources available to all men to use as part of their recovery. In order to support men and their families, Men in Recovery has formed a collaboration with the Aberdeen based social enterprise, Third Level Foundation. Together, we are now able to offer consulting and support services both in the local Aberdeen and Moray areas, and regionally, throughout the north-east of Scotland.
Men in recovery is a charity based in Scotland, registered in 2014. It was founded and inspired by Stephen Linturn and Jim Campbell who met in 2013. Both had the desire to create a platform to support men in the process of recovering from the trauma of sexual abuse. The services provided by the charity are mainly financed by funding.
Stephen's story behind 'Men in Recovery': I have worked as a counsellor in the Forres area for the last 12 years before meeting Jim Campbell in 2013. Both of us had the inspiration and mission to support men on their path of recovery from the trauma of sexual abuse.
Jim designed the first website and we started running workshops on a simple business model. However it turned out that the model was not sustainable. A lot of the men we were looking to support didn't have the money to participate in those workshops. It became clear that a Charity would be a better foundation to ensure that we would be able to offer the workshops. We found a team that supported the consolidation of the Charity and its endeavours, allowing the Charity to be registered in November 2014 with three trustees: Brian McMullen (Chair and a major part of the team), Paddy Atkinson and Rodney Knights.
In April 2015 Jim left the Charity to develop his own ideas in Edinburgh. In October 2015 I ran the first weekend retreat in the Forres area. It was a great success on many levels, though financially it was challenging. It was now abundantly clear that we needed to look for funding to be able to run the workshops in the future and provide the services we envisioned. A lot of energy went into that process and we finally received money from the Lottery, Awards for All fund. In 2016 and 2017 Sally Middleton and Christine Hartmann joined our team as Business Support and Administrator.
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Stephen Linturn brings a wide range of experiences to supporting men who have been sexually abused. He combines a sensitive, caring and grounding nature, with personal experiences of trauma, plus an honours degree from the University of Life. He has an established therapy practice in the North of Scotland where he has worked extensively with individuals and couples for over 10 years. Many of those clients had sexual abuse as part of their history and Stephen’s approach has proven to be successful in working with this client group.
Stephen’s skills and sensitivity are informed by his own childhood experiences of trauma and the ensuing recovery process that he went through. Plus the joys and woes of parenting, the demands of a long term relationship, living in different countries and being self employed as a carpenter, an officer in the Merchant Navy and other professions. He has co-facilitated a weekend retreat for men recovering from abuse with Mike Lew - therapist and co-author of Victims no Longer. One of the most significant parts of his journey to wholeness was being a part of a Men’s Group for 10 years. Stephen brings the experience of personal therapy and a host of related activities with him as valuable capacity for supporting other men on their paths.
"I chose to get involved in this work because I care about our society and am very concerned about where we are headed. Why get involved in male sexual abuse? It is a very neglected area in terms of awareness and support for the men. I am clear that the negative impact on the men, their families and society in general is enormous."
Basically it is a bunch of men who get together on a regular basis, with a set of agreements to keep it safe, and talk about their experiences. Sounds simple and in a way it is. However, for men in our society it is often a very scary idea to open up to other men about how they feel, think and be transparent about the areas where they feel inadequate or ashamed. Most men’s groups are created and run by the men themselves. A few are lead by a professional, typically a therapist or a counselor and some by men who have experience of being in a group and now want to support others to do something similar. Is it worth it?? For those who make the commitment to keep coming to the group and be with the difficulties, it most certainly is. My own positive experience has been echoed many times by other men.
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In this interview, co-founder Stephen, talks about Men in Recovery, why he wanted to set up the organisation, what to expect at an introductory workshop and provides answers to common questions that people ask. Please do get in touch with any comments or questions you may have.
In this very engaging radio interview with Gavin Harper from Radio Mearns in Stonehaven, Stephen talks about the situation of men with a history of sexual abuse in Scotland, the impact of these trauma on the lives of men, and about the difficulties men have to disclose their situation and what they are struggling with. He explains the mission of Men in Recovery to support men, now with an extended reach through its partnership with Third Level Foundation Ltd. in Aberdeen. The radio interview was broadcasted on 23 January 2018.
The term "workshop" can mean different things, to different people… A place to fix cars or a room full of people learning skills to help them change or achieve something different in their lives. For some people it can be off-putting. Often "workshops" are seen as a place people go to be taught a skill by teachers who have expertise in a particular subject area.
Men in Recovery workshops are very different to this. Although the facilitators have a wide range of experience in supporting and understanding men who have experienced sexual abuse, our workshops are about creating a space where everyone is invited to think about their experiences of being a man and in particular a man who has experienced sexual abuse. In our workshops men share only what feels OK for them.
Stephen always has a guest facilitator working alongside him, providing structure to the day and the activities. Their primary role is to provide a safe and supportive environment for the individual and collective process to unfold.
Our weekends are for men who have experienced or believe to have experienced sexual abuse, as children or adults. They are NOT for men who are abusing or have a history of abusing others. These men need a different kind of support that we do not provide. The fear of sitting in a group of men is normally very high at the beginning and reduces quickly once the weekend begins. We are aware of that and are making efforts to lower the fear barometer. We put a lot of effort into creating a sense of safety in the group.
We offer short Training Workshops as part of a continued professional development. For more information about our next event read more here.
Men suffer silently, especially as victims of sexual abuse and rape. Society and education have their share in influencing men to behave in a certain way, to suppress and not express emotions, to ‘swallow’ their true feeling and keep a 'stiff upper lip'.
We want to be on your side when you are going through tough emotions and want to let you know that there are ways of getting support; online and in person.
Feeling upset, angry, in pain? It may seem that these feelings will never end. Even if it is hard to believe, remember those feelings cannot and will not last. They will pass, like all feelings do. So, stay with us and read on:
Did you ever think of writing about your feelings? Writing down how you feel - this can be a huge step on your journey. Another step is to show it to someone else. It may be difficult to know whom you can trust, to whom you can turn to. You may be afraid of being judged if you tell someone what happened to you or how you are really feeling. We have a contact page where you can write to us. We promise that we read everything you write and aim to get back to you in 2 working days, if you wish so. There will be no judgment and you are in charge of whether you want to get a response or not.
If you feel you need to talk to someone directly, please get in touch with us via our contact page. We have formed a partnership with Third Level Foundation in Aberdeen who is offering counselling and support groups for men and their families. We are happy to connect and support you.
Here is a list of websites, created to support male survivors all over the world.
Male Survivors Partnership
Male Survivors Partnership is a consortium of support organisations offering specialist support to boys and men across the UK
The National Male Survivor website, managed by Survivors UK.
UK based organization, providing online and personal support and projects, groups etc.
Brighton based organization, proving support with an online presence.
Merseyside based organization, supporting survivors of abuse.
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An innovative US based site, supporting male survivors of sexual abuse.
International survivor organization, providing message board support for men.
International survivor web-based organization, providing support to men and women.
Canadian organization, supporting male survivors of sexual abuse.
Well researched Australian website for male survivors.